5 Best Work From Home Mom Tips To Keep Your Sanity Intact

Son's hand on my shoulder

Being a mother is a tough job, running a household at the same time adds to it in a big way and working from home while bringing up children and running your household is in another league altogether. These work from home mom tips will help keep you sane.

Yes I have to admit that being a work from home mom is absolutely amazing – most of the time anyway. I love being able to fit my work in around my family but it can also be incredibly stressful and hard.

I have to be completely honest here, the thought of having a 9 – 5 job working for a boss has seemed really appealing at times. Things like paid leave, a set salary I can depend on, being able to work without a whining child tugging on my leg (or sucking on my boob).

Being able to just focus on my work without having to fit chores, homework or any other mommy duty it would be really cool at times.

My two children are now in school every morning which is absolutely amazing. It makes it so much easier since I get most of my work done in the mornings so that I can be on mommy duty in the afternoon and early evening.

This was not always the case. My daughter got ill when she was 6 months old. She spent a week in hospital and we were advised to keep her home until she was 18 months old. This was really hard for me since she constantly got sick until she reached the age of 2.

Every time she got ill I had to nebulize her every 1 – 2 hours day and night. Nebulizing took 15 – 20 minutes each time and add in administering all the other medication added on even more time.

Fitting work, nappy changes, baby naps, household chores, my sleep and everything else in between those nebulizing and medication sessions was insane.

When my daughter was 2 years old and stopped getting ill all the time my son was born….

I kept him with me full time until he was 13 months old. Luckily he was an insanely easy baby, as long as he was on my boobs he was anyway. So I had to learn to do everything with a baby stuck to my boobs for 13 months.

I am only now, with my oldest child being 7 and my younger one 5, finding it easier to cope. Yes it only took me 7 years to get here.

Best Work From Home Mom Tips To Keep Your Sanity Intact

Here are my best work from home mom tips:

Make Self-care A Top Priority

It is so easy to even put yourself last on the list when it comes to being cared for when you are a mother, never mind put yourself first.

It is so important to do this, not only as a work from home mother, but every mother.

How can you expect to be able to look after everyone, do all your work and run your household when you have nothing left to give?

Putting yourself first will make sure that you are physically and mentally healthy. You will have the energy and motivation for all your daily tasks as a mother and as a business owner.

It is not easy to get into the habit of doing this in the beginning but as with any new habit you need to commit to it and keep doing it until it is something that comes naturally.

I use the first hour of every morning after I get back from taking my children to school for looking after myself. I have my morning health smoothie, then I exercise, followed by a shower.

I also make sure that I do something else every morning too, such as wash and dry my hair, shave my legs or give myself a quick facial.

Now one hour is not a lot of time but when you are a busy mom you will be surprised at how many things you can fit into an hour!

Once I have completed my hour of morning care I am so ready for work. I am more productive, I am happier and more relaxed.

If you have kids at home with you it is not as simple as taking that first hour, but find a time that works for you, such as your baby’s morning nap.

Getting away every now and then is great to rejuvenate your energy and get your motivation pumping.

Establish A Routine

I find that having a routine really helps me to get things done. I have set times for work, times for self-care, times for doing homework with my kids, time for my husband and time for dinner.

Your routine is not only for you, it is also for your children, family and friends so that they know and understand when you are working and when you are available.

It is incredible how many people know I work from home and think that they can just pop around for some coffee. I have set up strict boundaries – my week mornings are for work.

Having a routine also makes it easier for my children – they know that I sometimes need to work when they are at home and they understand that I need that time undisturbed. They also know when we do homework and when we have fun time too.

If you have a baby or toddler having a routine will make it much easier for you and your child. Children thrive on routine.

It is also important to remember to be flexible and know when to change your routine.

One thing about parenting – there is always change. Your baby will drop a day nap and your kids school time-table changes every term. You will also get unexpected things coming your way such as a sick child when you have deadlines to meet.

 

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Ask For Help and Delegate

Just because you are the mother and you are at home does not mean that you must do everything for everyone. This is something that you need to try and get straight right from the beginning.

You do not have to try and be a super hero.

Yes since you are at home you will be doing the majority of the parenting and household tasks, but make sure that your partner takes some of the responsibility too as well as your children.

I cook a healthy balanced meal every week night and my husband does the dishes afterwards. My husband braais on the weekends or we eat simple things like hot dogs. So essentially I am off cooking duty on weekends.

I do all the washing and drying of the laundry but my kids pack all the washing away. They also have to tidy up the whole house every day before supper since they are the ones that mess it up after school.

Teaching your children how to do chores and getting them to take responsibility for certain things from a young age does take a bit of time and effort. In the beginning they will do a very shoddy job which might be very irritating but keep the bigger picture in mind.

The time and effort you put into teaching them how to do things now is an investment into the future.Β 

And when everyone in the house is pitching in to run the household that leaves you with more time and energy for other things.

Consider hiring a maid to come and clean your house at least once a week. I have a lady that comes in for only 3 hours on a Monday and OMG do I love Mondays! I get to take my kids to school after a busy weekend, then I come home and I can work in peace and quiet for a few hours while someone else cleans up the mess from the weekend. What’s not to like right?

You may feel that you can’t afford a maid once a week but think about it in another way. How much money are you paying for that amount of work to be done and how much money can you make yourself in that amount of time? If you can make more money working that you pay out to someone to clean the house then spoil yourself and get it done.

Have Realistic Expectations

This has always been one of my biggest downfalls. I can really be my biggest enemy. I have always placed such high expectations on myself, often very unrealistic ones. Then when I don’t met those expectations I beat myself up.

Add in my own business and a couple of kids and it is a recipe for disaster.

I make myself a realistic daily to-do list now and I prefer to keep to just a few things to do that I know I should easily be able to manage so that at the end of the day I can see those items all ticked off.

I also make sure that my list includes all the things I need to do and not just my work things. It so easy at the end of the day to look at the things I got done only in term of the work I got done

The truth is that I need to acknowledge to myself the 4 times I washed all the dishes, the 3 loads of washing, shopping, homework, cooking, errands and all the other little things a work from home mom manages to get done.

Yes it is essential to have realistic expectations but it is also important to look back at the end of the day and see that yes I only managed a few work things but I actually multi tasked liked a demon most days.

I like to pat myself on the back at the end of the day and acknowledge what I achieved because let’s face it – chances are nobody else is going to!

 

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This is now my 6th day staying at Esperance Farmstay at Overhex, Worcester and I have finally managed to talk a walk around and have a look at my surroundings. It is so beautiful here, so quiet and restful. There is something so lovely about being surrounded by vineyards and this valley is just so stunning! In case you are wondering why it has taken me nearly a week to look up and appreciate where I am it is because I’ve been staying here with my mom and sister while my dad has been in hospital… so we have been doing shifts at the hospital keeping an eye on him and keeping him company and when I’ve been at the accommodation my focus has been on getting my work done and looking after my mom. It has been such a stressful time for us. Thankfully the owners and staff of Esperance Farmstay have made the ordeal easier to bear by being so helpful and kind. Tomorrow my dad is being discharged and I am going home to my husband and kids – I have missed them so much.

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Choose Your Balls

This is something that my mother told me a few years ago which I loved.

As mother you are going to be juggling all these balls. And it is a job keeping them all in the air all the time. There are going to be days where it is impossible to keep them all in the air no matter how hard you try.

When you can feel that something is going to give stop trying to keep them all there and land up dropping them all, or perhaps drop some that are really important. Instead choose the balls that you are going to drop and which you will keep in the air.

I struggled to do this the first few times because it made me feel like a complete failure. Consciously deciding which balls to drop and watching something crash and burn that I felt I should have been able to cope with was not easy. However with practice and some time it has become easier and I now understand it really is simply a process of prioritizing.

What are your best work from home mom tips that you can share?

 

14 Replies to “5 Best Work From Home Mom Tips To Keep Your Sanity Intact

  1. So relatable and useful tips. I can completely resonate with the introduction part of this blog. Even I am also a mother of two girls with only the age gap of 13 months. So it was a big task for me each and every day to handle each and everything. But yes, it was indeed a good learning experience for me as well.
    At the same time I believe that a work from mom has to keep a lot of patience because there can be some days wherein she can feel overly stressed.

    1. Oh my word Samidha, only 13 months between your girls. That is really hectic, especially when they are young. I have 26 months between my two so literally double the age gap you have and I struggled big time.

      On the bright side now that they are older it is amazing to have them so close in age, they get on so well and they play together beautifully so I am sure it is the same for you!

  2. Oh my goodness, Lynne. I luuurve these tips! They are so spot-on. Your Mom’s tip about choosing which balls to drop is just genius! I’m so impressed at how much housework your kids do. I really need to get that going. I seem to have been relegated to chief cook and bottle washer and it irritates me no end. Now I realise it’s time to take charge, the only person who can change this is me. Thanks for being so forthright, it’s one of the many things I love about you.

    1. Hi Lauren my mom is very wise, having brought up 3 girls! Oh yes I gave up trying to do everything a long time ago, all it does is upset me and make me feel like a doormat. And that’s the thing – why should we have to do it all? Nope these kids had to come to the party here and so did the hubby. I am so much happier now that everyone pitches in more.

  3. I love this article Lynne. Great tips as always. I particularly love the tip about including self-care into our regime. I know most Moms don’t do this. Having a routine is crucial for time management although I admit I struggle some days to stick to my routine because my day just runs away with me. Lately I’ve been setting myself some goals for specific days. For instance, I say to myself I will write at least five articles that day even if it means I’m writing one or two in the evening. This way it get’s done. Yes, I agree it’s better to delegate some of the work and ask for help. I often make life difficult for myself, trying to do everything myself and then eventually I blow up like a crazy women where I could have just asked everyone to pitch in, instead of setting myself up for a family feud. πŸ™‚

    1. Elize I know what you mean about the self-care and this has been a big lesson for me personally. I used to try and fit it in at the end of the day and then it never happened because I always ran out of time and if by some chance I did have some time available then I didn’t have the energy. I always thought it was more important to tick things off my list than look after myself. I thought it was selfish.

      The interesting thing now is that when I make sure to put my self-care as my top priority in the morning I land up getting more done during the day.

  4. Wow! I love this so much. I need to implement your one hour a day thing because I am losing myself and not making enough time for me most days. It’s hard to do this with a toddler but I will try while she is sleeping to get some sort of β€œme time” in there lol. Even if it’s just taking a hot shower and actually enjoying it rather than hurrying up washing and getting out btw it only takes me like 3mins to shower πŸ˜‚. The militaries that to you but I need to enjoy that shower.

    1. Felicia you just have to try it out, I only started with that this year and I wish I had started it when my babies were born because it has made such a difference to my life. I am so much happier and calmer and you would think that missing an hour in a day means that I would get less done but I actually get more done. I think rejuvenating myself in that way gives me a much needed boost. It will be much harder with a toddler for sure, but do what you can – maybe just grab those 3 minutes for now and work up to a 5 minutes shower!

  5. To make it as a “work at home mom” I think you need to master one thing – your organization skills. That is one of the things a had problem with at the beginning. After working a 9-5 job it was hard for me to get adjusted to the “home all the time” type of work. There was always something else to do, laundry needed to be washed, dinner needed to be prepared, the baby needed, well, everything… So I really felt depressed and that I made a mistake of going solo. But (thank God) I am not really the type of person to give into depressions and I made a decision to make it work! And I did. So my tip would be this – set yourself with working hours. I told myself I am working from 9-3 (yes yes, I cheated a little πŸ˜› ) and in that time I did NO housework. Only business and the baby. And after some time, the baby grew older and started going to the kindergarten and I set my working hours accordingly. And now I work while she is in the kindergarten (only work, no housework) and then I go and pick her up and then I do the housework (she actually helps because she is a little “dust freak”). So I work, she “works”, then we come home and do choirs together and spend time together… I think this is a win-win situation πŸ™‚

    1. Karmen you are so right – it is essential to set working hours where you work and don’t get distracted by other things. Thanks for sharing your experience with this.

      I think you are not alone with feeling low and depressed. When I became a mother for the first time I sank into such despair for about 6 months. Honestly I don’t know if it was loneliness or postnatal depression or what but thankfully I managed to get myself out of that mental space.

  6. I have seen a lot of women try to balance work and house chores and I have to say that it is extremely difficult for them. It becomes worse during holidays when school section is over. I really don’t know how they do it as I see even my wife struggling with balancing work and taking care of the kids.

    She works from home at least for the time being and she does the best she can and I help out when I can. Mothers are really superhumans as I don’t know how men can be able to do this.

    1. Geez don’t I know it Jay! My kids have only just gone back to school last week Tuesday after a 3+ week holiday and it was so hard to get any work done and keep the kids happy and busy. It is getting easier as they get older but those days when I had a newborn and a toddler in the house were insane! 

      I tell you one thing I am the happiest mom on the first day of school hahaa! Yes I love spending time with my kids over the holidays but after 3 weeks of a struggle I am so happy to get a bit of a break!

  7. Your mom is absolutely right! You have to chose what you want to focus on! Your tips are perfect, Lynne. When I decided to quit my corporate career and work from home, I was nervous because my son was a toddler. Playful, fun, talked nonstop AND was very tactile – loved being cuddled all the time. I worried how I would ever get any work done. I did neglect self-care for years. But I established a routine and explained it to him in an age appropriate way. And somehow things did work out. But yes, such a challenge to work from home with little ones. Also, it takes solid time management to tackle everything we have to do in the course of a day–and loads and loads of discipline. Working from home is so very distracting. You know, I dress to work every day even if it means just commuting to my desk at home. πŸ™‚ Makes a huge difference psychologically!

    1. Vidya yes that is a brilliant tip to share for moms that work from home – get dressed for work! It makes a massive difference. The baby and toddler stage is the hardest but it gets easier as they grow up, which is where I am now. It can still be hard but they don’t need to be watched like a hawk and they can entertain themselves very nicely.

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