Being a mother is a tough job, running a household at the same time adds to it in a big way and working from home while bringing up children and running your household is in another league altogether. These work from home mom tips will help keep you sane.
Yes I have to admit that being a work from home mom is absolutely amazing – most of the time anyway. I love being able to fit my work in around my family but it can also be incredibly stressful and hard.
I have to be completely honest here, the thought of having a 9 – 5 job working for a boss has seemed really appealing at times. Things like paid leave, a set salary I can depend on, being able to work without a whining child tugging on my leg (or sucking on my boob).
Being able to just focus on my work without having to fit chores, homework or any other mommy duty it would be really cool at times.
My two children are now in school every morning which is absolutely amazing. It makes it so much easier since I get most of my work done in the mornings so that I can be on mommy duty in the afternoon and early evening.
This was not always the case. My daughter got ill when she was 6 months old. She spent a week in hospital and we were advised to keep her home until she was 18 months old. This was really hard for me since she constantly got sick until she reached the age of 2.
Every time she got ill I had to nebulize her every 1 – 2 hours day and night. Nebulizing took 15 – 20 minutes each time and add in administering all the other medication added on even more time.
Fitting work, nappy changes, baby naps, household chores, my sleep and everything else in between those nebulizing and medication sessions was insane.
When my daughter was 2 years old and stopped getting ill all the time my son was born….
I kept him with me full time until he was 13 months old. Luckily he was an insanely easy baby, as long as he was on my boobs he was anyway. So I had to learn to do everything with a baby stuck to my boobs for 13 months.
I am only now, with my oldest child being 7 and my younger one 5, finding it easier to cope. Yes it only took me 7 years to get here.
Here are my best work from home mom tips:
Make Self-care A Top Priority
It is so easy to even put yourself last on the list when it comes to being cared for when you are a mother, never mind put yourself first.
It is so important to do this, not only as a work from home mother, but every mother.
How can you expect to be able to look after everyone, do all your work and run your household when you have nothing left to give?
Putting yourself first will make sure that you are physically and mentally healthy. You will have the energy and motivation for all your daily tasks as a mother and as a business owner.
It is not easy to get into the habit of doing this in the beginning but as with any new habit you need to commit to it and keep doing it until it is something that comes naturally.
I use the first hour of every morning after I get back from taking my children to school for looking after myself. I have my morning health smoothie, then I exercise, followed by a shower.
I also make sure that I do something else every morning too, such as wash and dry my hair, shave my legs or give myself a quick facial.
Now one hour is not a lot of time but when you are a busy mom you will be surprised at how many things you can fit into an hour!
Once I have completed my hour of morning care I am so ready for work. I am more productive, I am happier and more relaxed.
If you have kids at home with you it is not as simple as taking that first hour, but find a time that works for you, such as your baby’s morning nap.
Getting away every now and then is great to rejuvenate your energy and get your motivation pumping.
Establish A Routine
I find that having a routine really helps me to get things done. I have set times for work, times for self-care, times for doing homework with my kids, time for my husband and time for dinner.
Your routine is not only for you, it is also for your children, family and friends so that they know and understand when you are working and when you are available.
It is incredible how many people know I work from home and think that they can just pop around for some coffee. I have set up strict boundaries – my week mornings are for work.
Having a routine also makes it easier for my children – they know that I sometimes need to work when they are at home and they understand that I need that time undisturbed. They also know when we do homework and when we have fun time too.
If you have a baby or toddler having a routine will make it much easier for you and your child. Children thrive on routine.
It is also important to remember to be flexible and know when to change your routine.
One thing about parenting – there is always change. Your baby will drop a day nap and your kids school time-table changes every term. You will also get unexpected things coming your way such as a sick child when you have deadlines to meet.
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Being a work from home mother is fantastic… it’s also enough to drive one completely bonkers! 🌼🌼🌼🌼 I love being able to take part in school events and be the class mom for my kids classes. I love that I can be there to look after them when they are sick or need me. 🌼🌼🌼🌼 I also love quietness, HOT coffee and being able to work without being disturbed every 2 minutes. I also like to poop alone… but of course I don’t get much of that as a work from home mother 😂 🌼🌼🌼🌼 I love this photo because it sums it up nicely… everywhere I go and everything I do I am not alone even when I appear to be. Notice that little hand on my shoulder? 🌼🌼🌼🌼 I’m super excited to have FINALLY written a new blog post on my latest website (it only took me a few months) and today I changed my Instagram link to my new site! 🌼🌼🌼🌼 If you are looking for some work from home mom tips check out my new post where I share the top 5 tips from my 7 years working with my kids – and I can now say check out the link in my bio ❤ yay! . . . . . . . . . . #workfromhomemom #workfromhomemoms #workfromhomemommy #workfromhomemomma #workfromhomemomlife #workfromhomemomsrock #workfromhomemompreneur #mompreneur #motivation #girlboss #womeninbusiness #businesswomen #goaldigger #entrepreneur #bossbabe #momlife #femaleentrepreneur #entrepreneurlife #bossbabes #ladyboss #womenwhohustle #beyourownboss #bosslady #mompreneurlife #mompreneurlifestyle #mompreneurdiaries #empoweringwomen #savvybusinessowner #lifestyle #womenentrepreneurs
Ask For Help and Delegate
Just because you are the mother and you are at home does not mean that you must do everything for everyone. This is something that you need to try and get straight right from the beginning.
You do not have to try and be a super hero.
Yes since you are at home you will be doing the majority of the parenting and household tasks, but make sure that your partner takes some of the responsibility too as well as your children.
I cook a healthy balanced meal every week night and my husband does the dishes afterwards. My husband braais on the weekends or we eat simple things like hot dogs. So essentially I am off cooking duty on weekends.
I do all the washing and drying of the laundry but my kids pack all the washing away. They also have to tidy up the whole house every day before supper since they are the ones that mess it up after school.
Teaching your children how to do chores and getting them to take responsibility for certain things from a young age does take a bit of time and effort. In the beginning they will do a very shoddy job which might be very irritating but keep the bigger picture in mind.
The time and effort you put into teaching them how to do things now is an investment into the future.
And when everyone in the house is pitching in to run the household that leaves you with more time and energy for other things.
Consider hiring a maid to come and clean your house at least once a week. I have a lady that comes in for only 3 hours on a Monday and OMG do I love Mondays! I get to take my kids to school after a busy weekend, then I come home and I can work in peace and quiet for a few hours while someone else cleans up the mess from the weekend. What’s not to like right?
You may feel that you can’t afford a maid once a week but think about it in another way. How much money are you paying for that amount of work to be done and how much money can you make yourself in that amount of time? If you can make more money working that you pay out to someone to clean the house then spoil yourself and get it done.
Have Realistic Expectations
This has always been one of my biggest downfalls. I can really be my biggest enemy. I have always placed such high expectations on myself, often very unrealistic ones. Then when I don’t met those expectations I beat myself up.
Add in my own business and a couple of kids and it is a recipe for disaster.
I make myself a realistic daily to-do list now and I prefer to keep to just a few things to do that I know I should easily be able to manage so that at the end of the day I can see those items all ticked off.
I also make sure that my list includes all the things I need to do and not just my work things. It so easy at the end of the day to look at the things I got done only in term of the work I got done
The truth is that I need to acknowledge to myself the 4 times I washed all the dishes, the 3 loads of washing, shopping, homework, cooking, errands and all the other little things a work from home mom manages to get done.
Yes it is essential to have realistic expectations but it is also important to look back at the end of the day and see that yes I only managed a few work things but I actually multi tasked liked a demon most days.
I like to pat myself on the back at the end of the day and acknowledge what I achieved because let’s face it – chances are nobody else is going to!
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This is now my 6th day staying at Esperance Farmstay at Overhex, Worcester and I have finally managed to talk a walk around and have a look at my surroundings. It is so beautiful here, so quiet and restful. There is something so lovely about being surrounded by vineyards and this valley is just so stunning! In case you are wondering why it has taken me nearly a week to look up and appreciate where I am it is because I’ve been staying here with my mom and sister while my dad has been in hospital… so we have been doing shifts at the hospital keeping an eye on him and keeping him company and when I’ve been at the accommodation my focus has been on getting my work done and looking after my mom. It has been such a stressful time for us. Thankfully the owners and staff of Esperance Farmstay have made the ordeal easier to bear by being so helpful and kind. Tomorrow my dad is being discharged and I am going home to my husband and kids – I have missed them so much.
Choose Your Balls
This is something that my mother told me a few years ago which I loved.
As mother you are going to be juggling all these balls. And it is a job keeping them all in the air all the time. There are going to be days where it is impossible to keep them all in the air no matter how hard you try.
When you can feel that something is going to give stop trying to keep them all there and land up dropping them all, or perhaps drop some that are really important. Instead choose the balls that you are going to drop and which you will keep in the air.
I struggled to do this the first few times because it made me feel like a complete failure. Consciously deciding which balls to drop and watching something crash and burn that I felt I should have been able to cope with was not easy. However with practice and some time it has become easier and I now understand it really is simply a process of prioritizing.
What are your best work from home mom tips that you can share?